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Monday, November 30, 2015

Movie Sypnosis, Analysis of JCampbell monomyth and My Life Story_Leader Genevieve Ramos


Herewith is my paper on Movie Synopsis, Analysis and my life story.  I hope this can still catch up.  
Many Thanks,
Leader Genevieve

REGIS CEBU Leadership Movie Synopsis, Analysis of JCampbell monomyth and My Life Story
By Leader Genevieve Ramos
"Gifted Hands" the Ben Carson Story

"Gifted hands" is one of my favorite movie, I feel in love with this story the first time I watch this, and I always share it with my kids….
  
Synopsis –
Ben Carson becomes a world-class pediatric neurosurgeon at the prestigious Johns Hopkins Hospital in Baltimore, MD. Growing up in poverty-stricken Detroit with his mother and elder brother, Curtis, Ben could have never dreamed of the future that lay ahead for him. When 9-year-old Ben's father abandons his family, his heart is broken with the hurt lasting a lifetime.
Ben's mother, Sonya, is the driving force in her sons' young lives. Sonya was born in rural Tennessee and had 23 siblings. To escape her harsh existence, Sonya married at 13. Despite her third-grade education, Sonya was an intelligent woman who knew that education was paramount for her sons to escape the ghetto and have successful lives. Though working three jobs at a time, Sonya is a taskmaster. The boys are allowed to watch only two hours of TV a week and have to read two books each week, providing Sonya with book reports. The boys are not thrilled with the set-up but love and respect to their mother made them comply with her rules.

Moral of the Story
The story gave me a lot of lessons. I considered Sonya as my first hero. Her determination to succeed is very strong because despite her lack of financial resources and education she was able to pursue her dreams of making her kids succeed in life. I saw how Sonya's sacrificed, persevered and fought so hard to achieve her goals; she works simultaneously for three jobs in order to support her family specially the education of her kids. I admired her for such a mother who shows and acts tough love to her kids, as a result, her kids is disciplined individuals.
My second hero is Ben; His success of being an MD did not spare him from the difficulties and challenges of pursuing dreams. He fought it with strong determination and perseverance that led him to successfully hurdle all that comes his way, he didn't stop in pursuing his dreams and aspirations like her mother did. Further, what I admired of him was his love for reading, and early discovery of his interest, which I believed, has greatly influenced his success.  This was also made possible when he discovered early on his interests, strengths and skills that allowed him to to become excellent and pursued his goals seamlessly.

1.   The Hero was introduced in the ordinary world
Sonya was born in rural Tennessee and had 23 siblings. To escape her harsh existence, Sonya married at 13. Despite her third-grade education, Sonya was an intelligent woman who knew and believed that education was the only way for her sons to escape the ghetto and achieve success in life. Though working three jobs at simultaneously then, Sonya was a taskmaster. The boys are allowed to watch only two hours of TV a week and have to read two books each week with the corresponding book reports of which should be submitted to Sonya. The boys are not thrilled with the set-up but the love and respect for their mother who on the other hand was willing to take whatever it takes just to give the best to her son's made things possible.
2.   The call to adventure
Sonya was pressed an early marriage cause of so many siblings in the family. But when 9-year-old Ben's father abandons his family, his heart was broken. Ben loves his father very much and he was upset of what had happen. Ben recalls how he and his relationship with his father and prayed to God that he will come back again and be together. But later they knew that Ben father was involved with other women and drugs. He then realized that his brother and mother is better and much happier without his father. Sonya then was left alone trying to give her best to her kids believing that through good education they could achieve success. In-spite of what happen.
The adventure begin when the dad left them, though that incident made them sad, but this is the start of the journey when they realized then that their better and happy together, Ben, Curtis and her mother even in the absent of their father.
Archetype: Ben and his brother – Sonya's inspiration
3.    Refusal of the call
When the dad left it was a challenge for them to choose whether they will gets affected forever because of this incident or continue to pursue their dream even without their father.

4.     Meeting the Mentor 
There were many temptations and challenges for Ben and Curtis that could have led them astray. Ben falls under peer pressures and demands "cool" clothes to fit in with the other kids. He develops an attitude for a short period and his grades begin to suffer, but Sonya does not give up on him or on her goals for her sons. She continues to focus on what is important and keeps driving home the values of education and success as a priority. Throughout their formative years, Sonya tells her boys they can be whatever they want and that reading will help them realize their dreams. She never once gave up on them. Sonya inspired Ben's strong Christian belief which he maintain his whole life. So many times when Ben is up against impossible odds, he prays to God and always finds his way through them.
Archetype: Strong Christian Belief, God – mentor
Archetype: Sonya – Ben's inspiration

5.     Crossing the threshold
Ben begins to believe in himself and works hard at becoming one of the best kids in class in junior and senior high school. Although he faces racial prejudice and ridicule from some classmates and even some teachers, Ben perseveres always hearing his mother's words in the back of his head. Due to his outstanding academic achievements and his high SAT scores Ben is sought out by the best schools in the country. Ben finally settles on the prestigious Yale University where he receives a full academic scholarship. Very early own Ben knows that he will be a doctor—there is never a doubt about his career from that point on. Ben works toward his goal in every class he takes and places very high in his graduating class at Yale.
Archetype: Outstanding academic achievements – Ben's 1st success

6.    Tests, Allies, Enemies
In 8th grade, Ben endures another humiliating experience. He is the victim of "capping." Capping in the 8th grade is when one kid makes the most sarcastic remark possible about the other kid's clothes—always within earshot of the victim. Usually these brave souls waited until they had a group so they could gang up on the kid. Ben learns how to give it right back and comes to be respected and accepted. Ben had never given much thought to his clothes before, but now in the 8th grade, with the ribbing he was taking over his clothes, he finally pressures his mother to get him some trendy clothes. Now that he is capping back and dressing cool, he becomes part of the in-crowd. He is invited to all the parties and hang-outs with... 
Archetype; Ben's classmate - influencers

7.    Approach
Very early own Ben knows that he will be a doctor—there is never a doubt about his career from that point on. Ben works toward his goal in every class he takes and places very high in his graduating class at Yale.

8.     The new life 
While at Yale, Ben meets Candy who is a few years behind him. She is smart, a talented musician and from Ben's home state. Their initial friendship grows into a romance. Candy eventually becomes Ben's wife. Ben continues on to medical school, selecting Michigan State, which has a great medical school, affordable and close to home.
9.    Reward, Seizing the sword
During his time in medical school, Ben becomes an outstanding student and is the one that always knows the answers. The interns and residents start to rely on Ben to help them carry out their duties. 
10.The road back
Although Ben's first vision was to become a missionary doctor or a psychiatrist, he starts to become interested in neurosurgery. Ben hears some news that may jeopardize the neurosurgery department at the University of Michigan and applies at Johns Hopkins for the remainder of medical school 
11.Resurrection
      Ben Carson becomes a world-class pediatric neurosurgeon at the prestigious Johns Hopkins Hospital in Baltimore, MD.
12.Return with Elixir
Being accepted at this world-class teaching hospital was a turning point in Ben's medical career. Ben goes on to a stellar career as the Chief of Pediatric Neurosurgery at Johns Hopkins, leading surgical teams in difficult and controversial surgeries including separating conjoined twins sharing parts of their skulls. Ben Carson has become an inspiration to all races and to young and old alike.

REFLECTION
What is the significance of the movie "Gifted Hands" the Ben Carson Story into my life
I couldn't forget the time I was watching this movie, I was having mixed feelings and emotions. I was crying and at the same time I was amazed by how Ben's Mother raised them despite of the many challenges she was facing. Introspectively, I realized that I am so lucky enough now that I have somehow lived better than Sonya's life.  Hence, there is no reason for me to complain and not to do what he successfully did to her children. Being a mother of 4, I can totally relate with Sonya's life, I remembered during one of my meeting with the kids that I was sharing the story to them and I told them the same message Sonya gave to her children and I quote "take time to read books two books a week and tell me the story after".   As I am writing this reflection, I have realized that the only difference between how Sonya influenced her kids is that I was not persistent and didn't get to follow up my kids on the agreement and its results due to perhaps lack of focus and determination.
I firmly believe on the value of reading, as for me this was the greatest frustration I had in my life. I was not able to develop the habit of reading because of my "in born" eye problem. If I will be given a second chance to live again this is the one thing that I have to do in my childhood - The Love for reading. This is what struck me most on this movie, despite Sonya's lack of education she was able to develop and encourage Ben and his brother the interests and love for reading.
I. The hero was introduced in the ordinary world
It was in the year 1975, when the youngest of seven siblings was born in the simple and humble family back in Samar. Being the youngest of the family she was a bit pampered and excessively loved by her parents and her siblings. Back in school she was also one of the favorite students specially of the Math teacher. She was chosen as one of the representatives to compete in her school for the Math quiz bowl region wide competition. Although she did not win as the champion, but her experience was able to contribute her whole performance in school not only academically but socially. She gained so many friends and the more her parents and aunts appreciated her. Back then her life was so great. She felt the love and the extra care from her friends. She had so much fun and enjoyed every minute of it.  She is  Genervieve Ramos, a hero and a leader in this ordinary world.
II. The call for adventure
It was during my high school that I discovered that I had eye problem. I noticed that I could no longer read what is written in the black board, I could only transfer in front seat to copy the assignments of the day. It was very difficult for me then, my grades started to get low due to my eyesight problem, I couldn't catch up, understand the teacher and I get frustrated about it. When I was finally given eyeglasses, my classmates would tease me because my eyeglasses are so thick, because my grade then, was as high as -950, I was almost considered blind then but insisted that I was fine.  While at home my mom would discouraged me to read books because it will worsen my eye problem, and this is the greatest source of my frustration until now. I struggled so much because as much as I wanted to learn through reading,  I had a hard time doing it because of my current eye problem. I started to loose my confidence and self-esteem because of this predicament. This is the first reason why I love the movie "Gifted Hands", because I believed that love for reading will never let you go wrong, like Ben Carson, his love for reading gave him to discover his passion,  and he  eventually  became successful despite the odd.
III. Refusal of the call
As much as I wanted to read books, I was forced to stop because I am afraid to become blind. My predicament did not stop me with my eagerness to study and learn new things. Although difficult but still, I was able to land at the top 10 among our class. A feat that was good for many but was far behind from what I aimed for.
It was at this moment that I realized the huge impact of that small problem I had before. I was not able to develop the habit of reading. It was now that I realized how my confidence was affected by not having words to say because of lack of language efficiency. I have the tendency to be, if not many times, always out of context when responding and communicating due to perhaps the of lack of words and vocabulary. My communication is worst since I am short of words and ideas. It usually on averaged took me hours to composed and write down my thoughts. My daughter always corrects my grammar every time she heard me talking. It is painful though at first, but I started to accept it as it is part of my imperfection.
V. Meeting the mentor
Life must go on, since I could not go back to my childhood. I have to move on. To compensate, I looked for the things I am good at and I capitalized on my core strengths in building relationship with my clients and team, I was being passionate about the work that I do and passionate to serve my client, I was able to use my being logical and good in analysis, in showing and giving technical advice to my team and most of all to my clients, where I am able to assess problems and I was excellent in looking for resources especially during those moments when we stumble on investing something that did not work these are the few things that I am good at that I was able to capitalize in my work and in my world now.
I am forever grateful to those persons who have influenced me to discover my strength instead of focusing on my weakness, I am forever be grateful for those trainings and seminars that I attended that able me to develop skills that I needed to do for my job, I am forever grateful to my husband who influenced me to become who I am today and made me stronger to face whatever trials that comes our way, and I will forever be grateful to the giver of wisdom, the almighty father for being there all the time and the source of all this wisdom.
VI. Test, allies and enemies
As I journey through this life, the road was never smooth, we had a lot of tumbling blocks, there was a lot of barricades along the way, but the most important lessons is that how we are able to bounce back and pick up the pieces again.
Looking at the life of Sonya, she has many reasons not to be able to succeed but she chooses the best fight, she was able to conquer her past in pursuing to become successful and she made it.
Like me, I must be able to know myself well and deep enough to be able to face and accept my weaknesses and continue my journey in pursuing my path, I should be able to pick up the right choice and the right path in order for me to reach the right destination God had chosen for me. I should be able to shift perceptions especially on many difficult situations I will be facing.
VII. Approach
In order for me to rise up again and build my self esteem and skills, I have to finish my MBA degree. I have never regretted to go back to school since when I started and up to now, despite the many reasons for me to not pursue this course such as family priorities (missing school activities and mentoring of kids), office workload, and personal priorities, I managed to keep walking on this path because I believed that in the end I would triumph and serve more people excellently.  Being on my eight subjects already, I have learned so much from this course that would have not been made possible had I not fiercely and optimistically acted on this interest, looking back.  It isn't easy like a walk in the park because there are other priorities in life that must be held.

VIII. The new life
Life now is very different compared back then when I was faced with different types of problems, when I was feeling isolated, when all negative thoughts haunting on me. Faith has placed me in constant communication with God, that allowed me to cope up greatly from moments of difficulties and darkness. Trusting God is the best thing that ever happened in my life, likewise with choosing the right thoughts to feed my brain as my (being positive) husband constantly reminded me to shifts when in sad or negative moments. These are the reasons why I am motivated to move up again. I am back determined to continue my purpose of living in this world. I am very confident that in God's time I will be able to see myself succeed in this battle.
IX. Reward seizing the sword
If you believe in yourself and have dedication and pride - and never quit, you'll be a winner. The price of victory is high but so are the rewards.

In 2011, we are given the opportunity to organize a conference with the theme "1st Inheritance Conference" with the target of inviting all Families in Business and Families of wealth, it was a successful and well attended seminar. Right after the conference, we were able to create a service model, anchored on the needs expressed by the seminar attendees, to serve families in business and the families of wealth, of which many of families who attended in that seminar availed of our service. This was a blessing from God and the rewards he promised. We did not plan for it but it did come.
We are able to organize and develop more service model, put family driven content and lo and behold, we successfully pulled off the business and now servicing clients nationwide.
X. The road back
I know this is not the moment of triumph for us but, I believe that God showed us the way and use us to become an instrument to serve other people, to serve families in Business that they will able to prosper and become a good steward of their wealth in order to create more opportunity and create more jobs to the people.
I believe that God choses this path not only for us, but to a lot of Family Businesses out there who needs our help, who needs to strengthen their businesses so that they will be able to build their foundation, which would eventually build a legacy perpetuated from one generation to many generations thorough family unity and multi-generational perspectives 
XI. Resurrection
 "Try not to become a man of success. Rather become a man of value."  Albert Einstein
In Gods perfect time, He will show us his greatness and lead us his path. Continuously we seek for his guidance. We are back and this time we are committed to succeed. I know that there is so much of work to be done yet, but as long as we commit to follow his will we will never go wrong.
XII. Return with Elixir
"Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and your plans will succeed"- Proverbs 16:3
I was in awe of how God has showered his blessings upon us, after all the failures that we have been through. First, I am forever grateful for the experience of failing cause without failure, we will not able to appreciate his blessings that he has been showering upon us.  Second, I am so grateful for giving us the opportunity to serve our clients while we are serving ours too. Third, I am so much delighted with the blessing of shelter that He gave us, its more than we ask for, and lastly for blessing us with the love in the family that after all those moments of failures we remain steadfast of his love and we conquer all the difficulties that come our way.




Tuesday, July 21, 2015

Synopsis of the movie "Gifted hand" and analysis J. Campbell monomyth and my life story by Leader J. Pineda - Bansil

Dear Prof. Saguinsin,

I am sending to you the Movie synopsis " Gifted Hand ".

I made a lot of realization on this movie. 

Thank you.

Respectfully yours,

Janelle Ann Pineda-Bansil


The Monomyth of Joseph Campbell
Gifted Hand (The Ben Carson story)
My adventure

1. Hero is introduced in his ordinary world.

Ben Carson came from a very poor family. He was raised by a single mom name, Sonya. Sonya would take domestic works just to support her family's finances. When his family moved in London to start a new life, he encountered his first predicament as a child. Since Ben and his brother were transferees in their new school, they had difficulty in coping up. Ben was ridicule by his classmates .He was bullied which made him developed uncontrollable anger.
The poverty he lived with and experienced of bullying aggravated his rage.  
My simple life growing up
Just like Ben, I came from a very simple family. Back when I was young, I learned how my parents are very much frugal with our finances.
Others may see us struggling to make both ends meet, but it is the other way around for us. We may not experience the luxuries in life such as fashionable clothes, gadgets, delicious food, parties and  etc. but we were provided the most luxurious thing we can ever had, and that is, education. In-spite our life's status, my parents believed that sending us to a private school will give good foundation for our future.
It was instilled to me from my parents that education is the only treasure they can bestow to us.
Now that I am in AGSB, I also learned aside from my parents vision, that education can also help build nation. We are formed to lead one day and make a difference in the life of others.
And my Education from ATENEO me to become Man for others.
2. Call to adventure
Sonya was persistent to help his son changed their negative perception towards challenges in their life.   She believed that her children will have greater opportunity if they will do well in school and develop positive outlook.
She motivated them to perform well in school. She restricted them to watch any TV show except those shows who have educational sense.
She also required them to read books   in the library and do written reports. Although she can barely read, she would scan their reports pretending she was running through their reports.
 My mom is the most influential person to my life. I'm impressed how she surpassed poverty and finished her schooling with flying colors. She managed to influence me and my siblings to take the same path. I learned to set aside my desire for earthly materials and celebrate the simplicity of life.
 My mom is a humble midwife by profession yet very hardworking. I felt My call to adventure to join her in her field and become a doctor of medicine someday.
3. Hero is reluctant at first
Ben was resistant at first. He fined his Mom too controlling.
Eventually Ben learned to love reading over watching TV. He began to enjoy reading where he discover more than he could imagine. He developed strong desire to learn more. A new Ben arose with different perspective that redefined his central character.
When some of my relatives and classmates knew about my plan, I am prejudged for my ability. Others knew me for being a little free spirited and started to question my capacity of becoming doctor.
That made me more determined to pursue doctor of medicine. I was never reluctant like Ben, I did not allow others to define my character. Those people who have question me from the start became my motivation. But that motivation made me unaware of the personality I am creating inside me. I fail to realize how overconfident I am that I even loss my connection with the Lord. I have blinded myself from the eagerness of proving them wrong.
MED SCHOOL DAYS
The first day of Med school started back in 2009. I felt like I'm living the life I wanted. I was given so much time and attention by my parents. They have provided me enough, all I have to do is to study well and graduate on time. They say that Medicine is a one way door, once you are in there is no other way out.
Just like a normal student I wanted to pass all of my subject. I am very complacent that I will finish what I have started.
My leadership experience in Med school (Credibility)
I had an experienced like Ben, when I was asked to lead a group in a major subject. While preparing for the activity, I overheard one of my classmate questioning my capability to lead. He said " sus si Janelle? wala yan". I felt that devastated moment, as if everything stop around you and all you can hear is the fast beat of your heart accompanied by anxiety?
I felt irrelevant that moment. It took others to make me realize how stupid I am to allow mediocrity rule over me. It came to me that I have to prove myself and become credible. I mark that day on. I exerted extra effort looking for additional resources for reading materials. I fed myself with important information that equipped me to pass and even top some final exam. One defining moment that proves my effort in doing extra mile, was when my name came second on a major exam in neuro . It was as expected that the number 1 spot will be taken by the usual top-notcher. I surprised not just my classmates but the very one who questioned by ability. Then, the final exam came over, and with humbling experience from that person, I am exempted in taking almost all of the major exams. I was exempted for garnering adequate grades to qualify for the criteria for final exam exemption. Unfortunately, that classmate of mine was required to have his final exams in all of our subject and even had his removals for some of the majors.
4. The Hero is encouraged by the wise old man or woman
Sonya was very persuasive to Ben. Her influenced helped him to think and dream big. She was also one of the reason why Ben decided to pursue his Medical career.
 In some instances Ben's family would require medical visit in the hospital. Ben would have chance observe every single routine of the nurse and doctors. One occasion, an emergency call was heard through system call for "Dr. Jones". After that incident Ben imagined his name being announced in the hospital as Dr. Carson.
That made him choose his career as Doctor.
In God's grace at the age of 23, I was blessed to be a mom. And I successfully delivered a baby boy name Andres. Life suddenly became out of my control. But my mom encourages me to continue schooling. After pregnancy I have to go back to manila and continue med school.
5. The hero passes the first threshold
Because of his hard work, he eventually earned good reputation from his classmates and even top his class. One time, in his 5th grade, Ben amazed his teacher and classmate when he identify a rock samples his teacher had brought to school.
My decision on getting back on track was influenced by my mom and my loving husband. It was never an easy decision leaving my 6th month old baby. But I know I have to be on track again in chasing my dream. Back in manila, on the third day of class I was in my room reviewing for the next day class. I just felt that my tears rolling over my cheeks down to the pages of my book. I remember that melancholic feeling of being alone studying, away from my 6 month old baby and husband. It was very miserable time for me, that the only thing I can do that time is cry. I cried over the night. I elicited frustration for not coping up well with the challenges of my decision. Then, next morning I woke up, with heavy heart, I prepared myself for school. My first class is surgery. That day is so challenging  for me. I could not stop my emotion from bursting out. My tears naturally flows out of my eyes. then I texted my mom and told her about my condition in my surgery   class. I was surprised when she replied to me, allowing me to pack my things and go home to my son. Without hesitation, I went out of the room, I packed my things and went home to Pampanga.
6. The hero encounters test and helpers
After grade school Ben graduated with honors. He knew that they are not financially capable of continuing his college degree, so he became a working student. Because of his persuasiveness, he got a scholarship grant at Yale University and earned a B.A. degree in psychology.
After the quitting incidence. I was so relieved, but not happy. I continued my laboratory business for 2 more years. Then I enrolled to MBA-H. After a year I transferred to REGIS, where I am happily situated now.
7. The hero reaches the innermost cave
After graduating from Yale in 1973,Ben enrolled in the School of Medicine at the University of Michigan, and finished the degree, doctor of medicine.
Then, he married Lacrena Rustin. And they moved to Baltimore, Maryland.
Ben applied as a resident doctor at Johns Hopkins University. On his encounter as newbie in the department, Ben was put into a questionable decision making. He was called to attend a surgery patient   without the supervision of a consultant. It is a protocol to only do major surgical procedure in the presence of consultant doctor. Ben's licensed was put in jeopardy for saving the life of that patient. But that incident only proves his skills and competence. Then he was appointed as chief resident in neurosurgery department in John Hopkins.
 At the age of 33, Ben became director of pediatric neurosurgery.
In 2012, I tried my luck in franchising an international educational service. However, I luckily failed for 3 times. That is very frustrating for me.  Then one of my classmate in MBA-H introduced me to Galileo Enrichment program.
8. The hero endures the supreme ordeal.
A challenging ordeal came along to him. In 1987, Dr. Carson travels to Germany. He meet a couple, Peter and Augusta Rausch. He was asked by the couple  to do to separate their  two 7-month-old conjoined twins (craniopagus twins). Ben believes that the twins might be separated but with a higher risk of losing one or both of them.
He had four months to research and formulate a plan to save the twins. On his
It was never easy running a start-up business for all we know. It requires so much time and effort building the system and creating the norm inside the system.
Last 2014, I was privileged to expand my service in our community. We operated two more branches in partnership with schools in Mabalacat city. That makes me manage 3 branches in a row. Knowing that opportunity can only knock once for this case, I grabbed my chance and took over as center directress for the three branches. Which really required so much time and effort for my case, since that same time of the year I started taking subjects again at AGSB. Together with my responsibilities in the laboratory, I also have my family t take cgood care of.
Because I deal with kids, most especially toddlers, I get to see and compare their milestones. One occasion, my son visited me while facilitating the morning toddler class. It was singing and dancing activity. Surprisingly, he did not join the circle time and simply roam around the center the whole session. I notice his behavior. Then, I came to realize that at his age he must enjoy big motor skills activities and should have utter hundreds of word already. But the only words he can say are "mom, dad and No." It took me a while to observe how mad I've become. I've been too focus on my career. I failed to see the consequences of my actions.
Imagine I am holding an enrichment program, helping other kids improve their learning capacity in English and Math, and here is my son who cannot even express his needs and wants into words?  
9. the hero seizes the sword
Almost about to lose time in finding answer. An incident of miscarriage of his wife candy, led him to a great idea.  The next morning after the miscarriage of his wife, he was asked to do rare procedure of hemispherectomy.
 The procedure will removes half the brain of a 4-year-old who had been convulsing 100 times each day.
So, we immediately scheduled his visit to have him checked by a neurodevelopmental pediatrician. He was diagnosed to have communication delay. It was very hard at first, especially to my first born. He was requested to attend 3x a week therapy in San Fernando. The location of the therapy center is relatively too far from our place that it would really require extra time to prepare.
No one is expected to attend the needs of my only son but me. That made me yearn to take full responsible on the consequences of my actions.
10. The road back
Nearing to the four months' time, although Ben figured out an idea, He is still in the reckoning risk of doing the procedure. He even question his confidence to execute his plan.
A flash back was shown in the movie, when he was motivated by his mom, Sonya, to do well in school. Then He came back to reality and his mom came into picture encouraging him that he can save the twins.
The most significant decision I have to take is, to know my priorities in life.
That made me conclude the following decisions:
1.    Choose my Family first
2.    Close the lab on weekdays and simply do scheduling of patients  
3.    Close the two other branches and maintain the first standalone branch in Mabalacat.
11. The resurrection
On September 4, 1987, Dr. Ben Carson and a team of 70 doctors, nurses, and support staff joined forces. The surgery occurred for 22-hours He had applied a technique used in cardiac surgery called hypothermic arrest.
It was never hard decision for me to choose my family over my own self oriented goals.
I would like to support my thoughts with the shortest speech from the former CEO of Coca Cola , "Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. They are work, Family, health, Friends, and spirits and you are keeping all these ball in the air. You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, ricked, damage or even shattered. They will never be the same You must understand that and strive for Balance in your life."   
12. Return with the elixir
After the successful 22-hour procedure, Ben became famous. As of today He continuously attend different procedures in different countries.
After his consistent therapy sessions   with support from home-based routines, my son is just a few months delayed from his speech.
Probably the elixir I have in hand from that eye opening experience is "Love".  I have learned "that is not what I have in my life but who I have in my life that counts".
Self- realization from my experience:
I like to feature a quote from Joseph Campbell:

 "We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us. The old skin has to be shed before the new one can come". 
 

The plan that I've made for myself is not the same plan God had for me. And with that, I rest my faith in him to   lead me on my journey.
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