Genogram of Tristan Val Leonida
Grandparents (Mother side)
Lola: Estrella Pelobello Losanes
I can remember lola as somebody who was very accommodating. This is maybe because she was married to a Teniente de Barangay and she was tasked to be the defacto secretary of my lolo.
Lolo: Juanito Losanes
Lolo Batoy as we call him, was a person full of wisdom. He used to be a Teniente de Barangay. He never failed to amaze us with war stories especially during the Japanese occupation. When he died, we appreciated his influence to the people he had served when we needed to close the entire street for the vigil.
Grandparents (Father side)
Lola: Regina Solelapse Leonida
With the position as my other lola, as the wife of a Teniente de Barangay, I always picture Lola Rina as somebody who was very regal. She never left the house without making sure she looked perfectly beautiful.
Lolo: Miguel Leonida
Lolo Igi was one person I never saw getting angry. He had this calming effect that let everyone think clearly. Being a local barangay chief, I see him being respected by a lot of people. Every fiesta in the barangay he served, you can say that the Mayor, Congressman and Congressman showed him respect in a manner that they never fail to pass by his house just to greet him.
Uncles and Aunts (Mother side)
1. Dulce Losanes (+)
· Head Teacher of a public elementary school. She was the glue of the entire clan. Being the eldest among the siblings and cousins, everyone seeks her advice before every major decision. She was the one that really pushed for a yearly outing or Christmas party for the entire Losanes Clan that is why I am very close to my cousins up to 3rd degree until now. Despite the successes of others, her word was still important to everyone.
2. Hernane Losanes
· EVP of a heavy equipment company. Tito Nane is an inspirational story. He graduated as a Radio Transmitter Technician and worked hard until he reached his current position.
3. Engr. Hector Losanes
· 3rd Engineer (Seafarer). He is my semi-adoptive father. He and Mama Sonn couldn't bear kids back then so they 'borrowed' me from my parents and took care of me. They are what my parents are not. He always rewards each good job with a prize whatever the cost. I had a taste of the good life with them.
4. Jeanette Losanes Acabal
· Businesswoman. My super frank and sensitive tita is really somebody with an iron tongue. She speaks her mind and you know it is the truth. Her social skills are exceptional despite her very not-so-friendly aura. Well, she is a businesswoman.
5. Gen. Henry Losanes
· PNP General. Tito Hen is one of my idols. He is the only general I knew that hates security escorts and has never abused his power. His kids never bragged about their father's work or used it to gain something. I usually stay with them when I am in Manila (until now) and I see that his kids are well disciplined yet independent and very humble.
6. Ariel Losanes
· Postman. Tito Boy graduated as a seaman but was unable to work in a ship but he managed to fulfill his dreams with his son. He is the life of the party with his antics. He is our tito who seldom joins the adult discussion and enjoys playing with the teenagers.
Uncles and Aunts (Father side)
1. Engr. Felirina Leonida Lavilla
· Chemical Engineer. Tita Fely used to work in a Marcos-owned sugar factory in Iloilo until its fall in 1990s. She then focused on being a housewife until his husband was elected as one of the Sangguniang Bayan Members in our town. She then joined the local women organization to help in the beautification of the community.
2. Marlyn Leonida Guelos
· Housewife. I see her as one of the most sensitive people I know. She embodies the Ilonggo female (with the 'malambing' intonation). She listens to any topic you discuss with her and she reacts with a lot of sincerity.
3. Rosemarie Leonida Lemana
· Nurse. She used to work in a hospital owned by Imelda Marcos in Mindanao and stopped when her husband went to the Middle East. I see her as very daring in jumping into businesses and most of the time, failing. Despite that, she is still very upbeat and enthusiastic.
4. Vicente Leonida
· Seafarer. Among the siblings, I see him as the most detached one. He seldom joins the family events and is not comfortable with asking for advices from his siblings. Though, he is the most soft-spoken with the guys, his aura is always negative for me.
5. Gerardo Leonida
· Businessman. He is the daring and yet successful businessman among the siblings. His courage to venture into several businesses is astounding. He currently owns an organic farm, a resort, a commercial center and sand and gravel.
6. Engr. Leo Leonida
· Municipal Engineer. Tito Leo is THE heartthrob. Known for his goodlooks, he made a lot of young girls cry. Well, I saw a live catfight because of him.
7. Ruel Leonida
· Barangay Captain. I am not in favor of political dynasties but I won't deny the fact that since my Lolo, nobody took over the barangay captain role but my tito. He just left the position after three terms but now he is back. On a lighter side, I see the same respect given to him by the people as that of my lolo's so I believe he is on the right track.
My Parents
Father: Andres Leonida
Retired Letter Carrier/Farmer. Tatay Andy is the embodiment of hardwork and old school father. In a generation when father and kids act as friends more than parents, my father took the role of the traditional father – breadwinner, quiet, disciplinarian but behind the structure of a very strong man is a very loving heart. We see him wake up everyday at 3:00 in the morning to take his carabao to the farm and he returns home at 9:00 just to eat his breakfast. He left his job from the Post Office and pursued his passion with farming at 52 years old. Since then, I literally saw him work hard in the scorching heat and going home with mud all over him. At 66, he is still active with farming and carabao-feeding.
Mother: Lourdes Losanes Leonida
Administrative Officer of a local hospital. I literally grew up in a hospital. My godmothers and godfathers are either doctors or nurses because of my mother. My first lesson on leadership is with her. I have seen her manage her employees as I grow up. I have learned that leadership is relationship building and empowerment. Despite being the boss, she is knowledgeable of the processes handled by her team so that she can still do the legwork in cases wherein they are on leave. She always stands her ground and never gets swayed by anybody. She knows how to expand her network effectively and make it work for the better. Nanay never fails to explain the 'why' in every decision she makes no matter how tired we are of listening. She believes that we need to know the impact of each decision she makes.
Siblings:
Eldest: Capt. Lester Leonida
Master Mariner (Seafarer). Toto Bim is our benchmark. He graduated as the very first Cum Laude of his university. He basically set the standards too high for both me and my sister. Although we never felt competing, his accomplishments fueled us to do good not only to make our parents proud but also to protect our brother. I can say that he is a very loving son. Back in college, I can never have an allowance from him if he hears that I disrespected our parents in a way or another. Also, I will never forget when he warned me never to get caught drinking coffee or smoking in a posh coffee shop. He always wants a very simple life. Just like my other uncles and aunts, he is very business-minded. Now, he owns several townhouses for rent, dormitories, commercial center and is supporting a local Christian Church.
Middle: Cheryll Leonida, Ed. D.
Associate Professor in West Visayas State University. Among the three of us, my sister has the lowest self esteem. She always feel inferior as compared to me and my brother but she is the only UP graduate and a doctor at that. She is the righthand of my parents in running the farms. She is also my most straight forward critic – be it in the articles I wrote, the facebook posts I published and even my repertoire in my singing gigs. I can see tatay's hard work in her. She stays all night in the university working and even making our house a practice area for her kids when there are events. I can never be prouder of my sister.
Making this genogram, I learned to appreciate the people in my life – my family. Sometimes, when we get caught up in our own whirlwind of achievements, failures and the daily grind of work, we forget about the people that taught us the early lessons of life through their wisdom and experience. We always focus in the "I" and erase the memories shared by these important individuals that made us the "Best I" in the world. As I was doing this activity, I can't stop myself from smiling and start to remember the simple interactions I had with these awesome people. I will make sure to find time on my next trip back home to get connected with them and thank them in a not very obvious (or weird) way. Without them, I won't be the Tristan you come to meet.
Regards,
Engr. Tristan Val L. Leonida
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