My Genogram - Leader Jenieryll Jomarie Mangalindan

Hi Prof Jorge,

Sharing with you and the class my genogram.

My Genogram

Leader Jenieryll Jomarie Mangalindan

As a child, my family has been close both to my father and mother’s side.  We were staying on my father’s hometown in Tarlac when we grade school but eventually move to my mother’s side in Antipolo during our high school days and stayed there up to now.  In writing my genogram I directly call my grandparents on both sides, this exercise made me realize that I know little about their life.  Back in the days when I was still young, my cousins and I would hear our grandparents telling their story over and over again but we were too young to really appreciate it.  But now, I’ve realized that everyone’s life story is beautiful and there’s a lot of learning that we can take note of.

After some time it’s only this week that I called my grandparents again, and they were very happy to hear from me.  I realized they are getting old already and I should pay them some visit really soon.  The call ended them saying “I love you” which I replied with “Love you too”.  We never really had this kind of talk before and it feels good to tell them you love them.  After the call, I’ve learned a lot about my family’s history

Father’s side

My Grandparents

Grandfather:

Pedro Sr. (87 years old) – we call him Lolo Pedro.  He was born Minalin Sta. Catalina, Pampanga and is the oldest of two sons.  His father died when he was one year old.  His mother married the second time and Lolo Pedro then grew up with his Auntie Ingga (an old strict maid and a businesswoman) on which he later inherited his current home.  He is tall, mestizo and has a Spanish blood.  In school he excels in playing basketball in school.  He went to college but did not pursue his study and ended working in a sash factory making chairs, doors and window.  He was also a carpenter, fisherman and a cobrador in jueteng.  When he was 60 he was petitioned by his second child to go to Guam where he stayed for 18 years and retired.  Lolo works in Guam US airforce as maintenance guy and would sell t-shirts over the weekend.  He has long ears on which we believe is one of the reason he has long life.  Currently he is busy planting vegetables on a small vacant lot he borrowed from his friend.  Our family sees him as a hard-working and jack of all trades man.

Grandmother:

Lucy – (turning 80 years old this August) – we call him Lolo Lucy and is known for her contagious laugh.  She was born in Marinduque and would be seen as dancing in their school program.  She study until high school and later work as selling rice cakes, putting his small carinderia on where he met my Lolo Pedro while serving his meal.  That time Lolo Pedro went to Marinduque to sell boat and they when they meet, they never part after.  She went to Guam at the age of 54, stay there for 18 years and retired.  Lola work as baby sitter, custodian in mall and sell t-shirts over the weekend.  She currently stays with my Lolo Pedro in Tarlac and is enjoying their retirement.

Both Lolo Pedro and Lola Lucy are very hard-working.  Their family was poor and most of their children were not able to finish their study because of that.  When they went abroad until now, they send their grandchildren to schools.  They have stayed through thick and thin and I have them as my role model in terms of treasuring my relationship with my husband.

Their Children:

<![if !supportLists]>1.       <![endif]>Pedro Jr. (50 yrs. old) – he is my father and the 3^rd youngest.  Their family is poor and would often tell us (his children) that he needs to walk a couple of kilometer so that he can go to his school.  They have their ‘baon’ but would normally allot it to buy paper for his study. He is a carbon copy of my grandfather that’s why he was named Jr. despite him not being the eldest son.  He is a mestizo, excels in basketball and sometimes joins the honor rolls list in school.  When he was in college he eloped with my mother who was also a college student that time and he would finish BS Accountancy with two children.  He is a very shy when he was young but outgrew that when he starts working.  He was friendly to all and you would see him talking and sharing his stories even to those he just met on the jeep.  Recent scenario is here in Dau Mabalacat where I relocated and is staying for 2 years now, I never knew my neighbors except our landlady.  But when my father stayed with us for a month, I was surprised he knew a lot of our neighbors already.  He is also very generous on which most of his friends always ask his help.  I think most of the time he is too kind and very trusting which leads him to almost bankruptcy now.  As a father, he has taught his children the importance of education.

<![if !supportLists]>2.       <![endif]>Tita Marlyn (59 years old) – she is the eldest and is the closest to my father.  During her school days, she was normally elected as muse and would compete.  She finished college in BS Accountancy and marry a businessman CPA.  However she never got to practice her profession with her husband’s wish and stay as a housewife to take care of her family.  She tried to venture into business – selling jewelries, car tire, Tupperware and dress but would stop due to his family needs.  Now she was recently petitioned in US together with her husband.  At times I would see her leading discussions and events during family gatherings.  She is a mother of 4.

<![if !supportLists]>3.       <![endif]>Tita Rosalyn (56 years old) - high school graduate, met his husband in school.  Their family migrated in Guam even before I was born.  She worked inside US airforce in hotel and his husband was US Airforce and was put in Guam for assignment.  They also enter into business -   printing t-shirt and selling every weekend together with Lolo and Lola.  She is a mother of 3.

<![if !supportLists]>4.       <![endif]>Tito Ambo (54 years old) – took up to 2^nd year in Engineering but stop.  He is shy type, likes reading books and said to be one with the ‘brain’ in the family.  He is good in cooking, now maintains a small sari-sari store.  He is a father of 3.

<![if !supportLists]>5.       <![endif]>Tita Merly (53 years old) - associate degree as Stenographer.  Among the family, she is sickly when she was a child.  She worked in a hotel, grocery store as cashier; she also takes care of us when my siblings and I were still young.  She is still single and now selling snacks in a tennis club.

<![if !supportLists]>6.       <![endif]>Tita Agnes (51) – a high school undergraduate and is a mother of 4.  She is very good in cooking and has carinderia as their main source of income.

<![if !supportLists]>7.       <![endif]>Tita Ghie (45 years old) – one of my closest Auntie, she is high school undergraduate and is still single.  My grandparents lend her money to venture business in offering loans, selling jewelries, sack of rice, snacks.  When we were young, she would drop and fetch us to school.  She is leaving and caring for my grandparents.

<![if !supportLists]>8.       <![endif]>Tito Tolay (42 years old) – a high school graduate, and has his own sari-sari store as his main income.  He is a father of 2.

<![if !supportLists]>9.       <![endif]>Tito Randy – decease at the age of 4 years old.

Mother’s side

My Grandparents

Grandfather:

Michael (Deceased at the age of 79) – we call him Lolo Mike.  He was born in Cebu City and supported his study until he finished double degree in Mechanical and Electrical Engineer.  His work in a cement company assigns him in Rizal province where my mother’s family stayed up to now.  Afterwards he work as a seaman as Machinist Electrician then eventually as Chief Engineer.  This is how he supported his family and most of his children were able to finish study in a reputable school.  My grandmother describes him as kind, generous and a tough man.  For me I was able to see him until I was working until he died in 2009.  One thing I remember from him is his very shiny and complete teeth on which I would always asked how he was able to maintain and he would answer he used guava leave – I remember I will not believe that time.  And his smile would always greet me whenever I returned from my work; he would always be sitting in their sofa in their living room as I passed our gate to enter our home which is beside their home.  Whenever he goes out, he would always dress up even if he will just walk around the subdivision.  He is a very discipline man; he has diabetes and would monitor his sugar daily and never eat what is forbidden.  Most of his siblings died because of diabetes but Lolo Mike died in his sleep.

 

Grandmother:

Geronima (85 years old) – we call her Lola Nining which we later found out from her it should read as “Neneg”.  She came from Visayas maybe it was the way she pronounced her name that leads all of us calling her Lola “Nining”.  Lola Neneng grew during the World War II and would tell us how they hid below the ground to avoid the Japanese.  Her mother died when she was only 6 months old and she has transferred home from one of her older siblings to another to support her and her studies.  To finish school, she needs to help her siblings to cook, do laundry, take of their children and do household tasks.  Eventually she finished her Education degree and became a high school teacher and is retired at the age of 65.  She is used to talking in front of a crowd, up to now she is very active in church as church greeters and prayer warriors.  She became President of Ministry of Catholic Women’s League in 2008.  She met my Lolo Mike when she enters as intern in Immaculado Concepcion School and eloped at the age of 22.  Lolo Neneg is a fighter and would always highlight to us the importance of education.  She would also tell us how difficult life is for her.   

Their Children:

<![if !supportLists]>1.       <![endif]>Ma. Josephine (51 years old) - a loving mother of 5 on which I am her eldest.  She followed footstep of my Lola Neneng as a teacher and is also used in talking in front of a crowd.  She is a very strict and funny woman, and her students like her a lot.  One look from her and she can tamed you, but she would be very funny when telling jokes.  She is updated to recent events on the trending topics with the help of her students like the latest dance craze, on what’s “in”.  She eloped with my father when she was 18 and graduate at the age of 28 with 3 children.  Her desire to finish study was admiring for me.  She would go to school pregnant and stop from time to time to give birth and take care of us but she would still pursued.  She and my father would encounter all the difficulty when they had us even before then finish their study, their story was told with us their children on which we would learn the importance of education.  My mother is fierce, straightforward, assertive and a fighter.  Even when she was one of the youngest siblings, she has the courage to tell her parents and his older siblings if she does not agree on topics that is being tackled.  My aunt and uncle would normally do not want to go against her and knows how straightforward she can be.  When I was young she was very strict when teaching me, I remember I would cry on how she disciplined me.  She has molded us to be disciplined, value education and family.

<![if !supportLists]>2.       <![endif]>Tita Araceli (62 years old) – she is the eldest and marry at a young age.  She went back to college and finish as Chemical Engineer.  She is currently enjoying her retirement.  She likes reading books and would often see her ‘cool’ even at pressured moment.  She is a mother of 7, lost her husband when all her children were still studying.  She managed to send her children to reputable school and finish their degree.  She is tough and can be fiery at times.  I remember them going to a fight with my Lola and her siblings when one of the neighbor took advantage on them.

<![if !supportLists]>3.       <![endif]>Tito Michael, Jr. (60 years old) – he was a CAT officer.  He was in college when he eloped with his girlfriend that time.  He did not finish his study and works as carpenter in his younger days.  He now maintains a sari-sari store a source of their income.  He is a father of 4.

<![if !supportLists]>4.       <![endif]>Tita Marissa (58 years old) – she is a Pharmacist college undergrad due to  early marriage with a businessman.  She is a mother of 7 and is a housewife taking care of her family.  On his school days, she would often be nominated as muse and would join honors list.

<![if !supportLists]>5.       <![endif]>Tita Ofelia (55 years old) – is a graduate of Medical Technology and a mother of 1.  She worked abroad and offers his colleagues to buy her Avon products.  Last year 2014 she returns to Philippines for good and was able to invest in apartment and condo on which is under rental. 

<![if !supportLists]>6.       <![endif]>Tito Michinito (53 years old) – is a father of 2, is a seaman as pump man.  He was also a CAT officer and excel in basketball.

<![if !supportLists]>7.       <![endif]>Tita Jennifer (47 years old) – is a mother of 4.  She went took up nursing but not able to finish due to married early.  She now works in UAE as medical transcriptionist.  She is very good in cooking and is the happy go lucky amongst the family.

<![if !supportLists]>8.       <![endif]>Tito Michael III (42 years old) – youngest among the family and is now residing in Japan.  He study in Philippine Merchant Marine Academy and is now Ship Captain.  He is a father to 3 his children.  During his school days, he would be nominated as escort, joins basketball, a CAT officer, a taekwondo player.  He is greatly influence by my Lolo Mike to be a seaman.  As the youngest, he is the favorite of the family.

My brothers and sisters:

Jomar (28 years old) – graduated BS Accountancy and is now working in a real estate company handling tax.  He is currently reviewing to take CPA board exam this October 2015 before he gets married to his longtime girlfriend next year.  Jomar joins honor rolls list during when he was still studying.  He rebel when my parents split, BS Accountancy is his fourth course – 1^st is in PMMA, 2^nd as IT and 3^rd as nurse.  But picks up his self and finish his study.  Like me he witnesses my parent’s hard life and understands the importance of education.

Joma (25 years old) – a father of 1, he finish his 2^nd degree this 2015.  He is a happy go lucky guy but very good in computers.  His past time is watching anime and playing computer games.  He is now working as IT personnel.

Lyka (19 years old) – she is my only sister, she is beautiful and funny.  She is an average student, and needs a lot of guidance.  She is my ‘baby’ and she loves me.  She even cried during my wedding.  She is now taking BS Psychology and we would always remind her to finish her study and not take it for granted.

Sai (14 years old) – he is our youngest, and our favorite.  He would always join track and field sports and would be send to compete in other schools.  He is now in high school and would like to take Engineering once he reached college.   His hobby is playing computer games.

Conclusion:

For me if purely based on my family, I would say there is a little of ‘leader as born’ on my mother side when some of them are into teaching which is to lead your student to learn.  And some of my uncles on my mother side are also into CAT officers on which is leading a troop of solider and one make it to become Captain.  Prior to writing my genogram, I did not know that some of my relatives also joined the CAT training.  I was a CAT officer when I was in high school, and I chose to be one not because I was influenced by my relatives or friends, it is because I want to.  I have seen the CAT officer’s hardship and their great connection and I thought I want to become as one and be part of a great group.

I think my parents instilled in me  discipline and  continuous learning.  I must say  I am   a self-made leader.  There is a lot to learn on leadership and a leader must acknowledge that even if one was born with parents who are a leader, one must still equip his self to become a leader.  Being a leader is a decision we need to make, it is not just a one-time event.  Leadership is how we chose our life to be and applies in everything we do.