Justin Joseph P. Quilon
GENOGRAM
I. Grandparents:
a. Carlos Piatos Parada (Grandfather / Mother's side) - Tailor / Carpenter / Painter / Store Owner
He was one of the top students in high school. He excelled in mathematics. His expertise in house construction manifested his math skills and sense of creativity. He was loved by friends and relatives for his kindness and generosity. My Lolo Carlos always spoiled me with toys since I am their eldest grandchild. I remembered my Lolo asking me what I want to eat. Unfortunately, during that time I was not in a good mood and I don't want to go to school so I told my Lolo "lechon". I know that it would be difficult to get me lechon in the morning but my Lolo was very creative he said, "Ok" and went to the refrigerator to get something. When he returned, he gave me a bottle of lechon sauce. I remembered him for his creativity and being solution oriented.
b. Lucia Silvano Parada (Grandmother / Mother's side) - Dressmaker / Store Owner
She was a consistent honor student in high school. She won in several scholastic competitions. She was a success dress maker. Being business minded, she opened a convenient store side by side her dress shop that also sold shoes and bags. She was well respected in the community and was sought for her advices. My Lola was very soft spoken but when I needed comfort I always go to my Lola in their house in San Juan. During my younger years, My Lola was my adviser when I was making a difficult decision or when I encounter failure in my life. She gave me comfort and words of wisdom to change my mountain of problem into a small marble that I can just flick off my fingers.
c. Virginia Tungala Quilon (Grandmonther / Father's side) - teacher / owner and landlady of agricultural and residential lands, Red Cross War Veteran
She is my father's adoptive parent. She remains signle to this day. She is the daughter of Mercedes (housewife) and Jose Quilon (Ship Captain of San Miguel). She is a retired Public School teacher and a Red Cross War Veteran. She is a member of various Catholic organizations. I remembered my Lola having a very strong faith in God. She is very prayerful and she became a role model to us. Being in the province and living a simple life, she showed us how to live healthy not only in body but also in spirit.
II. Parents:
a. Susan Parada Quilon (Mother) - Teacher / Principal / Private Tutor
She was a consistent honor student; High school Valedictorian and Magna Cum Laude with a BSEEd degree in PNU and recipient of scholastic awards in High School and College. She worked for 27 years in a prestigious exclusive school for girls in Ayala Alabang mainly as grade school principal. She is presently working as a private tutor. She is loves to blog and cook. I admire her for her courage. I got my passion for learning from my Mom. I am very proud of my Mom for giving her life for us and sacrificing a lot just to make sure that we have the best life. I am very thankful to God for giving us a selfless Mother.
b. Joselito Tungala Quilon (Father) - owner of agricultural and residential lands / Security Agent / Supervisor in a construction company
He is the adopted son of Virginia Quilon since birth. He owns residential and agricultural lands in La Union. He was once employed as Company basketball player during his younger days. He also worked in a security agency as well as Insurance Company. He presently works as a supervisor in a construction business. I remember my Dad always trying to make us laugh. He lightens up situations. He thought me very practical lessons in life. He might have to fight his own battles in life making him choose a more complicated path but I am still thankful to him because he gave us his good genes. He indirectly made us stronger as a family.
III. Siblings of Mother:
a. Carlos Silvano Parada Jr. (Brother) - Owner of a Financial Company / Bishop of a religious community / Book Publisher
He graduated with a degree in Civil Engineering. He is the owner of a Financial Company. He is a very active religious leader. He was once elected President of their religious community. He is presently serving as Bishop. He is a song book publisher. He is also into Bonsai planting. He values giving to the community and serving.
b. Manolito Silvano Parada (Brother) - Store Manager of one of the biggest supermarkets in Manila
He graduated with a degree in Business Management. He mainly worked as a Manager in various companies in retail industry. He is presently the store Manager of one of the biggest supermarkets in Manila. He values hardwork and being the best in his craft.
c. Amor Parada Garcia (Sister) - Owner of an Advertising Agency
She graduated with an Accountancy degree. She worked in prestigious companies as Accountant and Business Manager respectfully. She opened her own advertising agency and has been very successful at it. She values her family a lot. Just like my Mom she would do anything for her children.
IV. My Siblings
a. Joselito Parada Quilon Jr. (Brother)
He took up Business Management. He worked in a hotel as Front Desk Coordinator. He was also employed in a Multi-National company. He accepted modelling stints. He is presently working in a Multi-National company as Billing Associate. He is very much into basketball.
b. Jose Maria Ricardo Parada Quilon (Brother)
He is a newly graduate of Don Bosco Technical College. He finished an Information Technology degree. He is currently working as a Test Specialist in a Multi-National Company.
CONCLUSION:
Doing this activity gave me goose bumps. I wasn't aware that in our family most of them are entrepreneurs. I am also not aware that we have teachers and community builders in the family. I am now aware where I got my interest in learning and sharing from. It is really important to know ones roots. I enjoyed rekindling the stories and rich memories I had with my grandparents while reflecting. My love for learning came from my Mom and my looks came from my Dad. Seriously after I became aware of our genogram, I realized that I came from a family with skilled hands and noble hearts. I came from a family that started small and with God's grace now living a better life. I also noticed that even though Math is not my favorite subject I still ended up enjoying it. Looking at my genogram, I now understand why.
As the eldest in the family, I took the role of being the father of the family. I was forced to be responsible for my two younger brothers. The value that I hold on to is my love for my family. I prioritize my family and this affects my major decisions in life.
I need to improve on my being insensitive to others. This has been a constant struggle and I am continuously doing my best to improve on this. Being insensitive or somewhat emotionless was my way of coping from the trauma I got when my father left us.
My strength is my faith in God. This has been shared to us by my Mom. I saw how she was able to conquer the challenges. Her trust in God was the key and she was my role model.
Though there seems to be some parts of my genogram that is unknown, I wouldn't let that affect me and my family. My goal is to stop any bad cycle that is happening within our family and continue to create a great culture for the future of our clan.
Knowing one's genogram is important as it helped me understand myself better. I will pursue my passion which is to inspire, educate, and motivate. I was born with this mission in my heart. I got this burning desire from my family. I will be using my new found knowledge to my advantage towards my journey to leadership.
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