MM Leadership Sharing Genogram by Leader Maricon P. Bangayan

Dear Prof. Jorge,

Good day!

Submitting my genogram.

FATHER SIDE

Grandfather – Angel Arzobal Panaligan, a guerilla of American Soldiers; died at the age of 42.  According to the story that is circulating around the family, he died because a coconut fruit fell down to him (maybe medically speaking internal hemorrhage).

Grandmother – Valentina Caisip Montealegre, a housewife, died at the age of 72 due to tuberculosis.

Both of them were not able to finish studies.  They build their family at Acle, Tuy Batangas.  They were blessed with seven (7) children, 4 boys and 3 girls.  

1^st Child – Maxima M. Panaligan; was born deaf and mute.  She did not go to school and spent her days serving the family.  She did not also marry and died at the age of 71 due to sickness.

2^nd Child – Irene M. Panaligan; just like her Ate, she did not finish studies and also helped serving the family.  She has a son and did not marry.  She raised her son by herself and with the help of her other siblings.  Presently, she is staying with his son at Laguna.

Only Son – Manuel Panaligan, undergraduate of Civil Engineering at University of the East.  He is married to Annallee Lim Matienzo, a college graduate from Sta. Cruz, Laguna.  Manny and Annallee are entrepreneurs at Sta. Cruz, Laguna.  They are running a small business.  They were blessed with two children:

Children – Manelle Ann M. Panaligan – a CPA; May See M. Panaligan – a Computer Programmer.

3^rd Child – Narciso M. Panaligan; did not finish studies also.  He is a farmer at Acle, Tuy, Batangas.  He is married to Adelaida Rodriguez Panaligan, a housewife.  They were blessed with five (5) children:

1^st Child: Aierin Panaligan-Bernabe; a housewife, married to Joel Bernabe from Pangasinan. They are presently living at Pangasinan and blessed with six (6) children: Marisol, Mary Grace, Mary Rose, Joven, Joshua and Jomari.  All of them are students except for the youngest, who is a 10-month old baby.

2^nd Child: Alice Panaligan-Delos Santos; a housewife married to Ricardo Delos Santos from Pangasinan.  Also, presently living at Pangasinan and blessed with four (4) children: Evan (unemployed), Oliver (an employee), Alexander and Alrick, both are students.

3^rd Child: Sally Panaligan-Uy; married to Alvin Uy from Davao.  She died at the age of 33 due to pregnancy embolism.  They are blessed with two (2) kids: Angelica and Shiela May, both are college working students.  The two girls are staying with their father at Balic-balic Manila.

4^th Child: Ronald R. Panaligan – single and working at Sta. Cruz Laguna with cousin Manny Panaligan.

5^th Child: Hector R. Panaligan – married and self-employed.  He is married to Vanessa Relacion-Panaligan, a housewife.  They are blessed with a daughter, Venus Heart, now 2 years old.

4^th Child: Avelina Panaligan-Rodrigo, a widower and living at Molino Cavite City.  She was married to Rustom Rodrigo who died due to sickness.  They were blessed with 5 children:

1^st Child: Adora P. Rodrigo – working in Singapore, a single mother to Ysabelle, a 10-month old baby.

2^nd Child: Mc Rhyan P. Rodrigo – working in Tagaytay, a single father to Lilith, an 8-year old girl.

3^rd Child: April Marie Rodrigo-Lopez – working in Singapore and married to Francis Lopez, self-employed and living at Paranaque City.  No kids at the moment.

4^th Child: Twin 1 – Raymond P. Rodrigo – single and working at Makati City

5^th Child: Twin 2 – Richard P. Rodrigo – working at Cavite City and living with his common law wife Aiza Drapite, a housewife.  They are blessed with 2 children, Renz (6 y/o) and Chloe (5 y/o).

5^th Child: Victoriano M. Panaligan, my father, worked at a Tin Can Company for 27 years.  He was a High School Graduate and opted to try his luck in Manila.  He first worked as a janitor under an agency and deployed them at a hospital where he met my mother.  Before settling down, he transferred work and landed as an employee of this Tin Can Company at Novaliches, Quezon City.  He is a man of few words and a family-oriented man.  He died at the age of 51 years old due to Cardiac Arrest.

6^th Child: Marciano M. Panaligan, died due to cardiac arrest and married to Leony Panaligan who passed away due to kidney disease.  They were blessed with four children:

1^st child: Lorena Panaligan-Evangelista; a housewife and married to Edmund Evangelista, a teacher in Nasugbu, Batangas.  They are blessed with two children, Pia (8 y/o) and Edward (5 y/o).

2^nd child: Leomar Rico Panaligan; a self-employed and married to Jennylyn Bautista-Panaligan, an OFW in Taiwan.  They have one daughter, Jelian Erica who is 3 years old.

3^rd child: Lucila Panaligan; single and working at Nasugbu City.  She is living with her older sister.

4^th child: Leomar Nilo Panaligan; single and working at Manila.

7^th Child: Erlinda Panaligan-De Guia, a housewife and married to Samuel De Guia, a self-employed at Sta. Cruz, Laguna.  They are childless couple.

MOTHER SIDE

Grandfather – Francisco Comia Manalo, a war veteran.  He died at a very young age, according to my mother, she was 7 years old when her father died.  He died due to tuberculosis.

Grandmother – Gertrudes Dalawangbayan Dimaculangan, a housewife when her husband is still alive.  She started working as 'kasambahay' at the age of 25 years old to support their five (5) children.  She is now 90 years old and bed ridden.  She is being taken care of her eldest daughter, my mom.

Their five (5) children are:

1^st Child: Generosa Manalo-Panaligan; my mother, a graduate of Medical Secretary at University of the East.  She accompanied her mother to work in Manila and was a working student.  She met my father at the hospital where her boss had a clinic.  She is now 63 years old and still working as a medical secretary.

2^nd Child: Dionisio Manalo; died at the age of 7 years old due to ruptured appendicitis.

3^rd Child: Julita Manalo-Aguila; a housewife and presently residing at Bauan, Batangas.  She is married to Rogelio Aguila, a self-employed also in Batangas.  They are blessed with a daughter:

            Only Child: Rose Ann Aguila, single and presently working at Makati City.

4^th Child: Zenaida Manalo-Dela Rosa; a housewife, presently residing at Bauan, Batangas and married to Edgar Dela Rosa, a retired employee.  They are blessed with three (3) children:

1^st child: Jimmy Dela Rosa; an OFW in Dubai and married to Sharon Dela Rosa.  They are expecting their third child this November.  Their oldest child is Jean Marcus (6 y/o) and James Edison (4y/o).

2^nd child: Jennifer Dela Rosa; single and also an OFW in Dubai

3^rd child: Jeffrey Dela Rosa; has a daughter who is living with the mom's kid.  He is unemployed and lives with her mother at Bauan, Batangas.

            5^th Child: Francisco Manalo Jr.; died when still a baby because of dehydration.

MY FAMILY

My father met my mother at a hospital where both of them works.  They tied their knot in year 1977 and blessed with three beautiful children:

1^st child: Maricon Panaligan-Bangayan; a graduate of Bachelor of Science in Commerce major in Information Systems Management at UST.  Worked in a private hospital for 16 years and decided to change career in 2015.  I am married to Arjan L. Bangayan, a Nurse Supervisor at a private hospital in Bulacan.  He is a graduate of Emilio Aguinaldo College and completed the academic requirements for Master of Arts in Nursing at UST.  We are blessed with three wonderful children:

            1^st: Luiz – 11 years old, a Grade 6 student at St. Joseph College of Novaliches

            2^nd: Kacey – 8 years old, a Grade 3 student at St. Joseph College of Novaliches

            3^rd: Marco – 3 years old

2^nd child: Roland M. Panaligan, single and a Doctor of Medicine specializing in Internal Medince-Pulmonology.  He is also a faculty at the College of Medicine of University of Santo Tomas. 

3^rd child: Marilene M. Panaligan, single and a Senior Developer at a company in Makati.  She is currently taking up Master in Information Technology at University of the Philippines.

That is my family tree.

My Learning:

As they say, family is the basic smallest unit.  I grew up with the care and assistance of aunts and uncles and even cousins.   I am really thankful that God blessed me with the gift of family.  I did not come from a rich family.  Most of my relatives did not finish or even did not go to school.  Most of them are high school graduates and work not from top management but doing manual work.  But having a family is not a matter of bank account deposits.  Having a family is an intangible investment that the return of it is priceless.  We were raised by our parents to be close to our relatives and to always look back at them.  Even though we grew up in Manila, our parents make sure that at least once a year we were able to visit our relatives in the province or join them on very special occasions.  Presently, we celebrate Christmas at the province of my father.  When he was still alive, he always wants to share whatever he has, like give away from his company, to his relatives.  He feels good when he was able to help his relatives so until now we do the same thing because we know that it is but right to share our blessings.  Being raised in a close family, we always help each other financially, physically, or emotionally no matter what.  We are really like brothers and sisters to each other.  We always lend a helping hand in times of need especially in times of sickness or death.      

On my part, I will surely share this or inspire my children regarding our family tree or genogram.  This is part of their self and knowing this will help them in their future decisions, endeavours, and others.  I will try to teach them how my parents did when I was still young.  Bring the members of the family a part of your life, never disregard them and always have respect or acknowledge them.  I will tell my children the importance of the family.  As my husband says, let the kids build relationship with their aunts and uncles because they are their family and we will never know when each one of us will need each other's help. 

This assignment is a learning experience, at the same time an enjoying experience.   I got the chance to know my roots.  My family makes and shapes my life as a person.  Doing this assignment gives me a new understanding and appreciation of my life as well as the life of my relatives.  Knowing my family help me understand some of the traits that I got and also the health condition of the family.  This assignment helps me to know who I really am.  As previously discussed in the Leadership Class, to be a good leader one must know his own self, be self aware and to be his authentic self. 

Leader Maricon P. Bangayan

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